In thinking about my perfect wedding, I didn’t begin to map it out in my mind until I reached about 15 years of age. Up until then I never really gave it much thought nor did I give it thought that I would one day be married. For me it was never really in my interests to even waste my time thinking about something that seemed so far ahead. However, when I reached the age of 15 I began thinking about which kind of wedding I would want, how big, entertainment, food, cake, dress, I began to go through everything in detail in my mind and came up with this plan of what my wedding would sort of look like. After a while however, I began to lose interest in engulfing myself in so many details because I realized how much time I still have left. I realize that many things change and maybe my perspective of things change as well and I may not want the same wedding that 15 year old me planned out one day out of curiosity.
I realize now that while I still have sort of an idea of how I want the day to plan out, not everything will go according to plan. Perhaps because I was raised to see the perspective to focus on myself and my career before settling myself down in life with another person, I never saw the appeal of spending so much time thinking about a day that still has years to come. While I am a girl and girls have more of the stereotype to overthink their wedding day and to have it perfect, I rather look at it not as a day of perfection but as a day that I will remember being one of the more important days I will experience and that not everything has to be about perfection. The influences I receive from my parents and my economic status in the world has been a real eye-opener as to how reality really is and not to expect too much of what isn’t in my reach but rather to make the most of what I have now.
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