The differences between male and female, other than biological, come from the societal norms in which we are meant to follow. Since before birth, we are put into a category and are raised to follow the set of rules laid out before us. In doing so, society is the one in control of how we each behave and portray ourselves in certain aspects. Our parent’s views and rules come from their parents and theirs from their parents, however, they mostly come from our surroundings. The stigma that comes with being either a boy or a girl, stems from what we are expected to be. Girls are into feminine things like makeup and looking pretty and boys are into more masculine things like sports and being rough. These stereotypes are what keep the both genders separated but its only what society has created. Now a days, because you are born a male of female doesn’t necessarily mean you have to follow that is set out for you. Girls can participate in having masculine traits and males can participate in having feminine traits. Society has decided it is okay to cross traits. However, only because society has deemed it appropriate, people now are more likely to display how they really feel. However, we are still held to certain standards of what a male and a female is before were able to decide for ourselves. Parents look deep into the stigma and in order to avoid criticism, they follow traditional norms. In doing so, it’s a continuous cycle of what is to be expected without really any change.
Males are expected to behave courteously and polite despite their innate male traits and females are expected to behave accordingly to please those around her in a physical and well-mannered form. The more this stigma develops the more controls other have over how you are supposed to act from what they deem appropriate. The expectations for males are the masculine point of view and they have to protect and care for others. This image of a man’s man is created and boys are groomed to follow it to truly be called a real man. This ideology leads to the constant dependency of males to be providers and be courteous and respectful to everyone because it is the manly thing to do. Not only do boys have to grow up to the expectation but they are also told since they are small to not act like girls and to toughen up. This form of bringing up boys has been passed down through generations to what society now deems is appropriate.
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